Day of Positivity

Action:
I woke up and sent texts of gratitude to my mom and my dad. Then, since I was with my girlfriend, I told her how much I appreciate her and everything she does for me.

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Reflection:
It felt good to be able to kickstart others' days with a kind message. I felt like by letting the people who love me know how much they mean to me helped me to start my day on a good note.

​Action:
My girlfriend asked if we could get Starbucks, and even though it was out of the way, and I think Starbucks is overpriced, I agreed.
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Reflection:
Although I hate going out of my way and just Starbucks in general, it was nice to be able to do one more thing to make my girlfriend's morning. She was very thankful that I drove her there and paid for her coffee, which gave me a sense of achievement since it made her so happy.

​Action:
My girlfriend's roommate was about to take the trash out, but instead, I offered to do it. She said yes, so I took it out down the stairs and to the dumpster across the parking lot. 
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Reflection:
Both my girlfriend and her roommate were very appreciative, and it felt good to help them both out. I kind of got the same feeling I did when I cleaned my girlfriend's room because it felt like I was making their lives easier. 

​Action:
My girlfriend decided that she needed a new bed because hers was old and a size full. She was looking to just switch her bed at school with her bed at home since she doesn't spend a lot of time there. She asked if I could come home with her while she votes to help her switch the bed. Unfortunately, I had a class that I could not miss, but I did what I could. I told her she could take my truck for the week so that she could at least transport the beds. 
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Reflection:
I love my truck, so this is hard for me, but it feels good to be able to help her out. Knowing that her having my truck will not only make it so much easier for her to get her beds switched but also ensure that her dad doesn't have to make a two-hour trip is nice. Overall, this is the hardest thing I have to do today, but it definitely feels good to make a sacrifice in order to better others. I will be driving her car this week, so I guess my day of positivity is extending a little bit.

Action:
While watching the Minnesota Vikings game, my girlfriend said she wanted ice cream. Usually, I would ask if we could wait until halftime, but I replied yes and said I would drive. We hopped in the car and went to Jeni's. While there, she wanted me to test flavors with her, and typically, I just got the same thing. While trying the flavors, there were two she wanted bites of. I told her I would get one of the flavors for her so she could have both. 

Reflection:
This, by far, was the most rewarding for me because it made my girlfriend so happy. I think my giving up watching some of the games made her feel appreciated. I also felt like it made her night when I got one of the flavors she wanted. This made me happy because even though I had to sacrifice my mint chip, she got to try one of the flavors she wanted. 

​Action: 
My girlfriend asked if I could clean her room and make her bed while she got ready, so I did.
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Reflection:
Although this was something I did not want to do, especially in the morning, I did. After doing so, I noticed that she felt calm since she had one less thing to worry about. It was nice to be able to help her out, but I did not feel like it did much for me.

​Action:
My girlfriend asked if I could help her do her LinkedIn, so I agreed to help her. She was getting frustrated with it and decided to quit even though she had a list of things she needed to add to it. I let her go lay down and relax, and I finished doing her LinkedIn.
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Reflection:
This was difficult for me because I also had homework I had to get done. It felt unfair at first, but then I thought about how much easier it would make her week if I just got it done for her. In reality, it only took me half an hour, but it saved her a headache. She was very appreciative that I did it for her, and that made me happy. However, it was still frustrating for me that I had to do it.

​Action:
My girlfriend needed to return items to Lululemon at the mall. I hate the mall almost more than anything. Originally, I had told her I only wanted to return the items and leave, but once we got there, she wanted to look around at other stores. I agreed, and we walked around the other stores for two hours.
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Reflection:
I hated walking around the stores, but the entire time, I focused on being positive. I thought about how lucky I was to be able to spend time with my girlfriend and do something she enjoys. While shopping, she would grab things, asking if she should buy them. Normally, I would recommend that she doesn't need any more clothes, but today I said that she should buy them. She was very excited about a sweater she got, and I noticed a difference in her mood from when we usually shop. I think that my being excited for her when she found things she liked made her mood better. For the first time I kind of enjoyed shopping and it made me happy that she was so happy. 

Action:
My girlfriend and I spent this time doing homework, but during the process, she struggled. While she was struggling, I would just give her a quick reminder that I was proud of her and that she was doing so well. When she would get exhausted, I would ask her if there was anything she needed or anything I could do to help. ​

Reflection:
This time was pretty easy, but giving my girlfriend words of affirmation and positivity made her more motivated. In these moments, I felt like a leader because I felt like I was encouraging her to keep going without directly telling her. I also felt like her mood was improved majority just by me being there, telling her how good she was, and offering to help. It felt good to be able to help her stay calm and focused during our homework session. 

​Action: 
This is not really something I did, but before bed, my girlfriend just laid down and thanked me for such a great day.
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Reflection:
This made the entire day worth it. Even though, at some points, I had to do things I did not really enjoy, I kept a positive mindset, and it really made her day. It felt good to end the day on a positive note, which I feel is the main takeaway, but hearing it just magnified it for me.